Problems that Couple Face Due To late Marriages

"Can I have your order, please?"

"Yes, I'd like a physically fit and stocky guy about five-eleven, or make that six foot even, dark hair, green eyes, good complexion, hard worker, and could you add a sense of humor, please, and also go easy on the testosterone. I'd like him happily ever after, please."

Can you imagine the response you'd get if you ever tried that, and yet, isn't that what we expect, the perfect spouse, and when imperfection rears its head like an overgrown pimple, we ourselves want to pop on out of the relationship. We tend to forget the qualities that enhanced the butterflies in our stomach that soon turned into the feeling of love which led us to the marriage commitment. When imperfection strikes, we get on the emotional merry-go-round and we tend to go round and round until one of us opts to get out.

That's one of the saddest things today; commitment has become like a piece of gum, i.e. when it loses its flavor, we throw it in the trash. Ironically, the definition for the word commitment seems so square in an ever changing round world. The first definition is: The trait of sincere and steadfast fixity of purpose; and the second definition is the act of binding yourself intellectually and/or emotionally to a course of action. I believe couples start off sincere and determined, but because of the "bigger issues," their commitment gets lost along the way. In addition to the threat of the big issues along the way is the fact that many marriages don't begin for the right reasons - usually because of unresolved hurts of the past - so there are old wounds being added to the new wounds from the big issues of the present, and eventually it just becomes too much to carry.

To my single friends out there, let me encourage you to make good use of this S.O.S. time, this season of singleness, and do a baggage check, in other words, take a personal inventory of your past to see if there is any unresolved hurts and/or habits that keep following you into your present choices. It's much easier to do this now, while you are single, then it would be in the middle of a storm in marriage. And remember, there's no such thing as a perfect person, but there is a person perfect for you!

Those of you already in that covenant of marriage, it's not too late; you'll just have to dig a little deeper to do that baggage check and work on those unresolved issues of the past so they can quit interfering with your present; otherwise, you will never make it over the bumps that marriage will bring you to. Just remember to limit your personal inventory to your own baggage and not that of your spouse. You'll be wasting energy if you concentrate on what's wrong with him or her because you can only fix yourself.



Problems that Couple Face Due To late Marriages by JahazVId